Happy 14th!

14 Feb

Happy Valentine’s Day (evening)! This is my first year ever with a Valentine (hello, darling) but I’ve kind of mildly celebrated the holiday every year anyway because it’s my birthday. ;)

I wanted to give a shout-out to Girlfriend because without her, this blog wouldn’t be here. She’s a completely amazing person who’s made me way more comfortable with myself and with the idea of speaking in public. She also gave me the name for the site, which I think I spent about two months on and probably would’ve spent six months on otherwise.

I’m not going to claim to be an expert on dating while ace. Girlfriend knew I was ace about three months after we first started talking. We met online; I have the benefit of actually being able to Gmail search our early communications. There was pretty much no courtship period for us — at least no formal period. It was basically three years of friendship, eventually mixed with mutual pining and perceptions that the other wouldn’t want to be in a romantic relationship, until Girlfriend was unreasonably brave and told me her feelings.

My only advice is communicate. It’s just been a few weeks, and we’re in a LDR right now — and will be for the next two years, probably — but we’ve already had several very frank conversations about a lot of different things. And there’s a lot of stuff we wouldn’t have known about each other if we’d skipped over talking about it, even as well as we already knew each other.

Perhaps next year I will have more relationship gems of wisdom to share.


2 Responses to “Happy 14th!”

  1. Meike March 19, 2011 at 8:50 PM #

    I know this is a month late, but Happy V-Day and congrats on having a Valentine! This post reminded me that I should make more asexual/dating-related posts on my own blog, but I get the feeling that you’ve worded your experience far better than I ever could mine.

    • ace eccentric March 19, 2011 at 9:15 PM #

      Thank you! Aw, that is a sweet thing to say. I know there isn’t as much material on asexual/sexual dating out there, so I feel like I should write more in the future… Of course I need Girlfriend’s approval of the posts (or I feel like I do anyway). And it’s an interesting “So at what point is information too much?” thing, although I suspect she’ll be able to tell me.

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