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Happy 14th!

14 Feb

Happy Valentine’s Day (evening)! This is my first year ever with a Valentine (hello, darling) but I’ve kind of mildly celebrated the holiday every year anyway because it’s my birthday. ;)

I wanted to give a shout-out to Girlfriend because without her, this blog wouldn’t be here. She’s a completely amazing person who’s made me way more comfortable with myself and with the idea of speaking in public. She also gave me the name for the site, which I think I spent about two months on and probably would’ve spent six months on otherwise.

I’m not going to claim to be an expert on dating while ace. Girlfriend knew I was ace about three months after we first started talking. We met online; I have the benefit of actually being able to Gmail search our early communications. There was pretty much no courtship period for us — at least no formal period. It was basically three years of friendship, eventually mixed with mutual pining and perceptions that the other wouldn’t want to be in a romantic relationship, until Girlfriend was unreasonably brave and told me her feelings.

My only advice is communicate. It’s just been a few weeks, and we’re in a LDR right now — and will be for the next two years, probably — but we’ve already had several very frank conversations about a lot of different things. And there’s a lot of stuff we wouldn’t have known about each other if we’d skipped over talking about it, even as well as we already knew each other.

Perhaps next year I will have more relationship gems of wisdom to share.